Social Media & Self Esteem

January 20th 2016

“I like you and the things you do.”


That’s always a nice feeling.

Whether it’s a like, share, or comment verification.

That digital thumbs up is always a good feeling to have.




I want to say something first, before I delve into any of this.

 I think social media is an incredible thing.

In why it exists, what it’s done and what it’s started to do.

It exists to con><nect, show support and keep up with absolutely everyone. And it’s done exactly those things.

But…what it’s started to do…

Is spark a competitive edge, reliance of approval and a pressure to make your life and the things you dream in—feel worthwhile and interesting to everyone else.

I feel ya.

It’s fun to share your life and even more fun when it’s liked.

But happens when that verification is less than you hoped for?

Is what you posted not cool? Uninteresting? Maybe you should you take it down too?


That moment meant something to you.

It served the exact purpose it should have—spotlighting a damn good moment in your life that you can continue to feel good about every time you look at it.


I get it.

That <<<< train of thought >>> is an easy one to go down. Easier than the one labeled “I don’t care”, because

Verification is a vice.

And an easy weakness to have when social media has officially given us a measurable tool to see what others decide is worthwhile.

It’s a concrete way to define:

A lot of attention vs. a little.

Who’s giving it vs. who’s not.

Who has it vs. who doesn’t.

And a concrete way to give a lot of people power over your self esteem—who aren’t you.

Which is interesting because.

What’s worthwhile to you? Is your call anyway. And any additional love is bonus.

So let’s think about it that way.

From this day forth.

Social media is officially a digital archive of the moments you deem the damn best.

I like you and the things that you do.



And every like, share, or comment verification is just icing on the cake.




And give yourself awesome props for living a life that warrants so many moments worth documenting.

And even if those moments spark a lot of attention from others?




And if they don’t?


You’re busy.

And other people are too.

And we can’t always make it to our phones to tell each other how much we dig what the other person is up to—whether it’s because we’re scootering around town:

Brb busy.

Jet setter over here.


Or eating a lot of snacks.

Can't talk. Busy.

Busy bee.


Which means.

We’ll do each other a solid and give the FYI of approval in person.


Which is always the better feeling anyway.