April 22nd 2016
Story originally written and experienced: February 4th 2013
It’s a freaky word.
A word some people steer clear of, while others can’t get enough.
It was a Monday.
February 3, 2013, and I found myself sitting on the cushy couch in my living room, pen in hand, polka dot robe wrapped around my body and thinking about this idea of “forever” and thinking about it a lot.
It seemed like a lot of my friends, family and co-workers were committing to many things these days—like marriage, moves and other monumental decisions.
And most seemed to be pretty pumped about it.
Were really freaked out.
“Is this permanent?”
“Is this right?”
And after talking to them all, I gathered a lot of things.
And then I wrote this:
To some people, forever means “commitment, the end of unpredictability, the extinction of change and a heavy a pressure to maintain it all.”
And to others:
“A promise, security, infinity, an achievement…even a relief.”
Both super intense definitions.
That don’t really have to be.
What if we changed the way we looked at the word “forever”?
sWiTcHeD iT uP.
Moved away from the Merriam-Webster dictionary definition of:
And changed it from an adverb to an action.
Stop directly applying that concrete concept to such a dicey things like love and a job, and apply it to more habit-based commitments that will take you to damn good places with damn good people if you can commit to keeping up with them—forever—instead.
“I’ll surround myself with people I like a whole hell of a lot—forever.”
“I’ll stick to hobbies that I find fantastic—forever.”
“I’ll never sell myself short—forever.”
“I’ll be there for everyone I give a damn about—forever.”
So that way.
No matter your age, circumstance, or decision, you have a foundation of reliable forevers—long-lasting relationships, a hobby that has always put a smile on your face and a series of promises achieved to give yourself the best that will pull through for you in times that feel uneasy, unsure or just incredibly new.
And I feel like if we can define it that way? It will feel like a lot less like a pressure, and more of a definitive promise to put what keeps you afloat and feeling good—first and foremost—forever.